Wedding Details
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Schedule and Timing
For the rehearsal we ask that you and your wedding party be on time. Don’t forget, there may be other rehearsals, so please be attentive to this detail, as each rehearsal is allotted 45 minutes. Rehearsals are conducted by one of our rehearsal coordinators. A coordinator is also present at the wedding to coordinate/facilitate the details of parents and wedding processional. Please bring your marriage license and all the stipends to the rehearsal.
Regarding the ceremony, again, please, be on time. We often have multiple weddings and/or Masses on the same day and weddings that start late due to the late arrival of the bride can result in the next group arriving before the first is done. You have an hour and a half time slot, which is sufficient time for a wedding if used efficiently. It is not to your advantage to waste your time on being late.
Music
Our Director of Music is Dr. Daesik Cha. He is responsible for all music arrangements which will take place inside the church, regardless of musicians. This means that he will help you plan your music selections, your musicians and your cantor/soloist. If you choose to bring in a different organist, a bench fee of $350. Please contact the Music Director no later than three months in advance of your wedding. Email Dr. Cha or phone her at 781-284-2265.
Receiving Lines
Receiving lines are not generally permitted at the church because of the limited time window available. You must inform the celebrant if you wish to take photographs after the celebration. Keep in mind that hour and a half time slot into which all activity at the church must fit.
Stipends and Fees
Many couples present themselves for marriage in our church. Some of you and your families have been involved in the life of the parish for years. Your gifts of time, talent and treasure and those of your family enable us to celebrate your wedding without a request for donation.
For others, perhaps you are new to the area or for one reason or another have not been active in our parish, though you or your parents may live in the town. We ask for an offering of $300.
Other couples may not have a prior connection to the parish, but have decided for one reason or another to be married here. Perhaps the couple doesn’t live in the town, nor do their parents, but for whatever reason, you have come to us. For these couples, we ask $500.
Summary of Stipends
Apart from the church offering, the stipends go to the individual providing the service for the couple. One check for these fees can be made payable to Our Lady of Sorrows.
- Church: $0.00, $300, $500 (see above)
- Priest: Your discretion
- Organist: $350
- Cantor: $200
- Wedding Coordinator: $125
Other Details of the Day
- You are responsible for contacting a florist who will provide floral arrangements for the church during your wedding. If there is more than one wedding on your date, you might want to share expenses with the other couple. It may also be helpful when selecting flowers to keep in mind the seasonal decorations in the sanctuary. You will be given a letter stating Our Lady of Sorrows’ policy regarding floral arrangements in the church.
- Unity Candles are not permitted as part of the ceremony at Our Lady of Sorrows.
- Your photographer or videographer must abide by the rules established for the appropriate celebration of your wedding. Do not let them assume they know the ground rules. You will receive guidelines to pass on to your photographer and videographer. Please be sure they receive this letter.
- Please do not throw confetti, rice, bird seed, Silly String or flower petals. Tell your guests if these are used outside the church the ushers will be asked to clean it up thoroughly.
- Aisle runners are not permitted. They are a danger to your guests and to you.
- If you want to invite the priest/deacon to your reception, please do so by sending an invitation to him.